There are many in the body of Christ today who are not content unless they are controlling someone or something. There are people, it seems, who always want to be “in control.” If they can’t have control, they will find a way to punish anyone who gets in their way. The punishment is usually some form of verbal abuse and intimidation. Offenses do come, and jealousies rise up all because of the spirit that wants to rule. Let me give you two scriptures…
Ecclesiastes 4:1-3… “So I returned, and considered all the oppressions that are done under the sun: and behold the tears of such as were oppressed, and they had no comforter; and on the side of their oppressors there was power; but they had no comforter” (KJV).
The story here is this: a man said something which brought oppression, tears, and loneliness. He was “in control” and the listener was silenced. Whatever was said was verbal abuse and intimidation–perhaps it was said in anger or a wrong tone of voice. The one on the receiving end sat in a corner, sorrowing. Rather than extending grace and mercy, abuse and unforgiveness was inflicted. The abuser condemned the listener and protected himself by shifting blame to another. The predictable results of a spirit that wants to control are loss of cooperation, hurt and wounded relationships, thoughts of retaliation, suffocated creativity, hostility, deceitful behavior, separation, and isolation. Oppression can become so bad that the “sorrowing one” wants out of life.
2 Corinthians 11:20… “For ye suffer, if a man bring you into bondage, if a man devour you, if a man take of you, if a man exalt himself, if a man smite you on the face” (KJV). The words tell the story of the spirit that wants to control (rule). The word “bondage” means “to enslave or dominate.” The word “devour” means “to feed you words that bring you down.” The word “take” means “to lay hold of aggressively.” The word “exalt” means “to superimpose oneself,” as in, “It’s my way or else.” The word “smite” refers to a tongue-lashing or verbal abuse as well as physical abuse. This is what those in Ecclesiastes 4 were doing and it’s very wrong.
What is needed to heal the situation… First, repentance and confessing the sin. Second, seeking forgiveness. Third, humbling yourself before God and others. Proverbs 15:1 says, “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger” (KJV). Many people who want to control never seem to see Jesus as Lord; they see only themselves. Christ does not utter threats or lash out in verbal abuse. Christ walks in love and mercy. He is full of grace. Christ reaches out to forgive. Isaiah 66:2b reads, “To this man will I look, even to him that is poor [humble] and of a contrite spirit, and trembleth at My word.” Jesus is Lord. We are His servants.
Pastor George Belobaba
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