Building Strong Families

Psalm 127:1… ”Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it” (KJV). The word “house” is referring to the family. When the word is traced back to its root, you will find that the father, or the head of the house, will build one of three kinds of family homes (a dungeon house, a winter house, or a temple house–a house that is always in bondage, a house that is financially secure but cold and without the warmth of love, or a house that is full of joy and happiness).

Your family is your fortune. Develop it and keep it; don’t lose it. The possession of a Biblical home begins with marriage; the husband is responsible to build a hedge of protection for his family. Ecclesiastes 10:8 tells us that if there is a hole in the hedge the serpent breaks through. Proverbs 11:29 says, “He that troubleth his own house shall inherit the wind“; i.e., “the man that disturbs or afflicts or stirs his own family will inherit the breath of God’s anger.” Proverbs 24:3,27 teaches that before you jump into marriage, plan carefully. God is very serious about the man being the hedge for his family.

The biggest reason many marriages and homes fail is because too many inexperienced people are getting into it. Adult education usually begins with marriage. Many marriages start out sweet but soon sour; they begin in courtship and but end in the courthouse. It used to be that “the home that prays together stays together.” Remember, “every family tree has some sap in it” and that every once in a while there is a crop failure.

Matthew 12:25 (also Luke 11:17-18) teaches that the ruin of a household starts with division. ”Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation; and every city or house divided against itself shall not stand” (KJV). Kingdom is referring to a nation, and house is referring to the family. Where there is division, there is ruin and desolation. Where there is division, there is disruption. Inner division is often the root of family problems. A family is composed of many pieces–you can throw them together, or you can fit them together (Ephesians 2:19-22). We even separate them in church. Deuteronomy 6:5-7 talks of the family being together in serving God.

Luke 11:21-22… ”When a strong man, fully armed, guards his own house, his possessions are undisturbed. But when someone stronger than he attacks him and overpowers him, he takes away from him all his armor on which he had relied and distributes his plunder” (NASB). Jesus was talking of Satan and of Himself. Jesus is the stronger, and he has plundered Satan’s kingdom. There is a principle of truth here that can refer to the man of the house or the head of the home. Wrong spirits want to enter and do battle. Many times the enemy comes into the home because the hedge was broken. The man, the head of the household, is the first line of defense against evil spirits. The man is responsible before God for the protection of his family. When men fail, an opening is made for the devil to come in a ravage the home. When a man is strong spiritually, it limits Satan’s ability to affect the household. Satan needs to hear and to understand this. ”I am a man of God in my home. Devil, you had better believe it.”

Job 1:10 … Satan’s five areas of attack… Satan had accused God of putting a hedge around Job. The word “hedge” means “intertwined.” God and Job were intertwined. Satan had investigated Job and found that he couldn’t get to him. The five areas that he looked at were conduct, family, possessions, work, and influence.

Job’s conduct… Chapter 1:1 reveals Job’s conduct as a believer. He was perfect, or mature, upright, pure in heart, and righteous in his walk. Job feared God. He had reverence and respect for God and His word. Job eschewed evil. He abhorred it. The devil had inspected Job’s conduct. He will inspect yours as well.

Job’s family… Chapter 1:10 … Job had a great concern for his family (note 1:2-5). The greatest protection a family can have is a praying head of the home. Job sanctified his household (v. 5). A home is sanctified by the truth (see John 17:17; also John 15:3: ”Ye are clean through the word which I have spoken unto you,” KJV). Paul states that a church is sanctified by the Word (Ephesians 5:26). Paul states in Ephesians 6:1-4 the father must get a word from God on what they are to teach their children and how to disciple them. Satan inspected the status of Job’s family.  He will inspect yours as well.

Job’s possessions… Chapter 1:10… Satan will inspect your wealth and how you earned it. The Bible teaches a lot on wealth. God is not against it. But God is against greed, covetousness, dishonesty, stealing, giving poor wages if you are an employer, usury, and cheating. Note 1 Timothy 6:9-10… When financial priorities are out of line, you find yourself in sorrows. Many financial problems are really spiritual problems.

Job’s work… Chapter 1:10… Satan acknowledged that God had blessed Job’s work. The devil overlooks nothing. He knew what Job was like on the job. He knew how Job stood up under pressure. He knew about Job’s ethics and work habits. How we work tells a lot about us. God hates slothfulness.

Job’s influenceChapter 1:10… “His substance is increased in the land” (KJV). His substance is his influence. Today it’s called “your image” or how you look to others. You always project something. Your lifestyle is important.

Satan told God that he was not able to get through the hedge. The devil can not get into a home when the head of that home is a God-fearing man or woman. A person intertwined with God in these five areas is a strong person. Paul teaches, ”Neither give place to the devil” (Ephesians 4:27, KJV); i.e., don’t give him an opening. Isaiah 35:9 says that when you walk in holiness, no lion or ravenous beast can devour you. Abraham told the king of Sodom, when he wanted to give Abraham wealth, “I have lifted my hand to the LORD” (Genesis 14:22, ESV). If you have lifted up your hand to God, and you meant it, there is no devil that can get to you. The family is under attack in our society. Fathers, what kind of home have you built?

Pastor George Belobaba

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